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Just Go With It…

Over the past week I have really enjoyed just being home. I feel happier than ever and I have accepted what happened with my ex and I can move on. Nothing ever happens like you imagine it will. And that is OK.

I’m looking forward to reconnecting with old friends, meeting new people, seeing new places and just going with the flow.

“Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop figuring out precisely how we feel, stop deciding exactly what we want, and just see what happens.” – Carrie Bradshaw

Now, can someone pass the gin please?

Little Things

People watching with a mug of coffee, snuggling up in front of an open fire, sunshine on a long walk or your favourite song on the radio. The little things in our lives can make the biggest difference. But do we enjoy the little things more with someone else?

I am definitely a girl who enjoys her own company and who is happy spending time alone. But obviously I would much prefer to snuggle up with someone in front of an open fire.

It’s easy to feel apprehensive and a little bit nervous about the prospect of sharing the little things with another person when you’ve been so let down and promises have been broken. You question everything. That wall gets rebuilt and it is even stronger than before. But if we do that, how can we ever expect to let anyone new in?

My walls may be built but there are plenty of windows to let that sunshine in.

Featured #2

Over the past few months I have connected with some of the most lovely people. People are so friendly, real and honest and it really does feel like a community. It is so nice to find out about other content creators and their stories.

Here are this month’s featured accounts.


Name: Megan
Age: Twenties
Instagram handle: @idkmegsx
Why did you decide to start the account?: I love writing, not to sound too cliche. I like to share my stories, and give the raw stories that some decide not to tell. I like to focus on all aspects of my life and not just all the happier parts. My life has had many ups and downs so its a great way to document those, and also offer some comfort for people who are feeling a bit down in the dumps and know they are not the only ones who are feeling like that. I also love to share my embarrassing stories (there’s a few) and post a bit off fluff to as I don’t want my blog just to be negative. My blog is my outlet, but I also think it’s full of good advice too (or at least that’s what my friends tell me).
Top 3 tips:
1. Be yourself, don’t try and fit in with what you think is popular
2. Write when you feel like writing because that is the truest and rawest stuff and usually the best stuff too
3. It takes time to get where you want to be, so don’t compare how you’re doing to someone else, everything in life happens when it happens.

Name: Daisy Pineva
Age: 31
Insta handle: @daisypineva
How long have you been doing this? 2 months
Why did you decide to start the account? I have always loved fashion and putting outfits together made me so excited! I loved that different outfits would match my mood and that fashion gave me confidence to express myself! Just before Christmas I discovered Lorna Luxe on Instagram and fell in love with her style and feed and read her blog with her tips and advice on becoming a blogger/Instagrammer. I felt so inspired and thought if I don’t go for it now I never will. I had lots of stuff I had bought in the sale and that’s how I started! I feel so happy I went for it because I feel like I’m doing something that I have always loved!
Top 3 tips
1. First go for it! Don’t make excuses like I did for years and just do what you love! I know lots of people say the market is saturated and this and that but I fully believe there is a community for everyone who genuinely has a passion!
2. Secondly, engage with people’s content and people who engage on your post all the time ! Its like if somebody on the street commented on your outfit and you didn’t say anything back! So always be kind, grateful and positive and project that to like minded people!

3. Lastly, be yourself and let it come through in your posts! Think about what kind of message you want to send to people engaging with your posts. Be real in a perfectly fake platform!


Name: Charlie McLean
Age: 28
Insta handle: @charlielmclean
How long have you been doing this? So I’ve been working with/on social media for a couple of years, my business is mainly on Instagram, but have only taken it full time since September 2018. Then I recently decided to step it up a notch by putting out more content on my IGTV and then deciding to start a YouTube channel!
Why did you decide to start the account? I started this line of work because I just didn’t want to be stuck in a job for the next 40 years. I loved the idea of having freedom and flexibility, and being able to live life on my terms. I found a way to be my own boss and jumped straight in!
Top 3 tips
1. CONSISTENCY! Whether you want to be a blogger, youtuber, or anything else, you need to be consistent. Success never happens over night, it usually takes a long time of working hard behind the scenes before someone takes off. Keep putting out content you love and enjoy the journey!
2. Don’t compare yourself to others. When you’re working online/on social media, it’s easy to start comparing yourself to other people. You have to remember that everyone is on their own journey and everyone has their own struggles, just stay in your lane and be true to yourself.
3. ADD VALUE! Think how you can stand out from the crowd. If you’re looking to impact others and add value, you will develop a loyal following. People will begin to look forward to your content because they are gaining something from it. You will end up building a community of like-minded people who will connect and engage with your content!

Name: Jennifer Sanchez Bastida
Age: 33
Insta handle: @jennifer_sanchez_bastida
How long you have been doing this? I found my passion for Instagram 1 year and a half ago. I fell in love with the platform and the ease with which it allows you to share your experiences and passions with a wide audience. At the beginning of this year I made a conscious decision to up my game by posting quality content daily, investing in an IPhone Xs for better quality pictures and experimenting with my style.
Why did you decide to start the account? I moved to London six years ago, from Barcelona and I’ve found this city to be a constant source of inspiration. I have been able to embrace and cultivate my strong passions for fashion and coffee shops, that I’m compelled to share them with my amazing growing insta family, who inspire me on daily basis with their talent, warmth and generosity of spirit. I’m so thankful for their support, it means the world to me. Moreover, I really enjoy creating content with my fiancé’s help who takes all my pictures and supports me so much with my vision.  We are both creative people( I am a film producer and he is a writer, director and actor) and recently we have opened our own film production company called Reality Break Films.

Top 3 tips: Let your personality shine, you are unique, embrace it and find your own style. Know your audience and engage with them on daily basis. Post content consistently (at least once a day)


Name: Megan Mills
Age: 23
Insta handle: @megannmillls
How long have you been doing this? I have been doing this for about 4 weeks! So not too long at all.
Why did you decide to start the account? Right now I am a college student at Utah State University going into marketing. I have always loved the advertising and design aspect of marketing, and actually had a really good friend who had begun her instagram influencing journey about a year ago. This fall I ended up reconnecting with her in a marketing class we had together and doing a couple of photo shoots just for fun! At first, I was hesitant to start a new instagram page because I didn’t necessarily want to put myself out there. But as a couple days went by I thought, Why Not?! I love fashion and taking pictures so it seemed like a perfect fit. And honestly it has been so much fun, I am so glad that I began to start blogging.
Top 3 tips
I am obviously no expert having just started a couple weeks ago but I will share the three main things that have helped me grow.
1. Engagement! Make sure to like and comment on other blogger’s posts. That way you will be able to build relationships and connections and they are likely to reciprocate!
2. Consistency! This was a hard one for me, especially at the beginning but it is so important to stay consistent with your posts! Try to post everyday especially while you are trying to grow and post around the same time each day.
3. Hashtags! I have found through experience that it is so important to use relevant hashtags! If you are going into blogging or fashion I could recommend using hashtags that are associated with that. That way you will be included in the community who also uses those hashtags.

 

Thank you so much to all these lovely ladies for their time. I really appreciate it and I love finding out about the people behind the photos. ❤️

 


Lessons Learnt

In a relationship we try our absolute best to make the other happy through compromise, love and commitment. But what happens when your best isn’t good enough?

Whilst I have not had the best experience of a relationship recently, I am also not cynical about them. Every relationship you ever have is unique and different to the other. You learn a lot from each and every one. It’s just unfortunate that this time around all of the above was actually never reciprocated.

You just have to accept that the wrong person will never appreciate you, no matter how hard you try. 🖤

Putting it out to Tinder

There comes a time in a newly single woman’s life when we ask ‘To Tinder or not to Tinder?’

Swiping right and left, hours of Grade D chat and getting asked for your SnapChat handle so Mr X can send you a photo of his ‘member’. Didn’t realise that when Tinder says ‘Members Only’ it meant that. Seriously guys – is romance really dead?

What happened to meeting a nice, decent single guy through a friend or reconnecting with an old one? Is online dating distracting us from what is actually right there in front of us?

I mean are we looking for Mr Right or Mr Swipe Right? I think my thumbs will stay away for now.

Soul Mates

Sometimes everything hits you all at once. You lose a relationship, leave a job, move country and have to say goodbye to people you’ve met that you love.

Through all the ups and downs I can honestly say that living here has been the most amazing experience of my life. Turns out the way this chapter of my life has ended was actually the way it was supposed to end. I couldn’t be more grateful for that.

I spent tonight with the most incredible women who have been the most wonderful friends. They say that in relationships you find your soul mate. I lost a relationship but I gained a whole bunch of soul mates. I feel so lucky to have found people in my life that make saying goodbye so difficult. But hey, it’s never really goodbye to those who you truly love – it’s just a ‘see you soon’.

 

 

Ready or Not?

With only a few more days until the big move back to the UK, it’s been a bit of an emotional week so far. But sometimes your life has to be turned upside down in order to see it the right way up.

In no way am I completely ready for any of the things that I am dealing with at the moment. Moving back, moving on and moving forwards are all things that will take time. But are we ever ready? Are we ever ready for change?

You know, it’s so easy to look at an edit of someone’s life and make a judgement. Especially when I am writing about it on such an open platform. Sharing my story is something I never thought I would do. Yes I write about relationships, offer my opinion on how to deal with break ups and share my experiences but honestly, every day has been a struggle in some way.

No matter how many songs you listen to about being a strong, independent woman, how many gins you have, how many girls nights out you go on, how many guys you might fancy or meet, how many episodes of SATC you watch (yes! I have a problem) or how many blog posts you write that make it seem like you’re ok – you aren’t. And that will just have to be fine for now.

Table for One. Drinks for Two.

Six years later and I’m ticking the singles box again. As a woman in her late twenties who thought she was going to get married this year, you can imagine this ‘box’ was not where I thought my tick would be. Turns out, ticking that box is exciting.

But what does being single really mean?

Does it mean staying in on Saturday night drinking gin alone with only your TV remote for company? Does it mean putting on your highest pair of heels and dancing until the sun comes out with people you just met? Does it mean calling all of your friends to tell them all of your recent dating stories? Does it mean chewing your best pals ear off whilst you compare yourself to all of your married, couple friends? Does it mean not getting out of your pyjamas on a Friday whilst eating cold pizza with unwashed hair? Does it mean feeling super sexy and getting those butterflies from just a glance across the bar?

It means all of the above and then some. Insert the perfect Taylor Swift lyric here…

“I’m sorry, the old Rebecca can’t come to the phone right now. She’s dead.” ❤️

Featured #1

Since starting my blogging journey I have been spending a lot of time creating my own content, telling my story and writing about what I love. In addition to this, I have also been really inspired by other bloggers and their content.

With that being said, I want to write a featured blog once a month showcasing bloggers and Instagram accounts that I am loving at the moment. These ladies all have their own stories and their content is just beautiful. From fashion to beauty, lifestyle to travel, interiors to make up – I wanted to share their stories with you because they are really worth reading about. Please use the links to follow their blogs and Insta pages. 


Name: Sarah Jane Hitchings
Age: 34
How long have you had @cotswoldscottage for?
I’ve had my home account for just over a month, started 08.02.19 (I’ve been on insta personally for a few years).
Why did you decided to start the account?
I was following lots of home accounts and find interiors really interesting. I’m proud of my home and thought if I shared it I would inspire more to make more changes and be bolder. 
Top 3 tips
1. Research similar accounts and look at what hashtags they use
2. Comment on posts you like as often as possible. It’s lovely to receive a comment on your post.
3. Take a few photos at different angles to get the right one for the post. Then leave them in your camera roll for another time. 

How long have you had @myunsecretmumdiary for?
About 18 months.
Why did you decided to start the account?
I decided to go into blogging because I wanted to share my struggles with depression initially, then when time passed and I became pregnant and happier I wanted to share my mum-to-be style. Now it’s mainly about the fashion because it’s my first love (but I still to and fro from mental health because it’s a struggle for me and very much important to me).
Top 3 tips
1. Patience, seriously. It doesn’t happen overnight. And it’s OK if you take a few breaks here and there, just cut yourself some slack and come back to it when you’re ready.
2.  Stay true to you- it’s not rewarding if you don’t do you. You can’t post about things you don’t believe in. Style is individual so post about the styles and subjects you really love, and nothing else! That’s what makes it uplifting.
3. Know what’s good and bad for you. It’s a learning curve. It’s all well and good following thousands of people but you want those people to really be other bloggers you believe in and enjoy following. Following a load of people that make you feel bad about yourself (through no fault of their own) because they give you major life envy or amplify personal insecurities can be addictive but it’s not good for you mentally. Focus on the people that make you feel good! 

Name: Kate
How long have you had @kandid_withak for?
I took an interest in photography 4/5 years ago, but just started blog recently – been a goal to start travel blog for a while now and finally had the opportunity to do so, with a bit of encouragement from a good friend!
Why did you decided to start the account?
I enjoy taking pictures and love writing. A few friends had been asking me for travel tips for various places across the globe so thought it would be a great idea to write a blog that can help others with their travels. I also found many travel blogs useful in finding hidden secrets of a destination and all the best cafes. 
Top 3 tips
1. Plan your time effectively to fit around your normal working hours – stay organised. 
2. Focus on area that you have a real passion for and make this come across in your writing.
3. Just do it! Don’t be afraid of other people’s opinions – if you enjoy it, then that is all that matters. Just dive in at the deep end!

How long have you had @erin_angela_xo for?
I have been blogging for for approximately two and a half years. I began my blog in the summer of 2016.
Why did you decided to start the account?
I’ve always loved makeup and fashion. I regularly read blogs and magazines such as Cosmopolitan and Vogue, which inspired me to start researching blogging. I decided to begin my blog as a way to share my own makeup tips, product reviews and makeup tutorials. 
Top 3 tips
1. Identify your niche. Will you blog about beauty, home decor or fashion? Identifying your niche early in your blogging journey is a great way to get started.
2. Don’t give up – Blogging takes time and effort. It can become frustrating when you first start blogging, but it becomes easier with time and practice!
3. An editorial calendar is a lifesaver – About a week after I started my blog, I developed an editorial calendar to identify when and what to post. An editorial calendar not only kept my content organized, but it was a helpful tool to keep my ideas and inspiration flowing. 

How long have you had @abigailkathleenlondon for?
3 years
Why did you decided to start the account?
I started blogging when I was severely depressed, I had read a magazine about mental health bloggers and a friend of mine Tanya is also a blogger. I decided to set up my own London lifestyle blog as a distraction, to keep me busy and creative. I fell in love with creating content, it allowed me to continue my photography as more than a hobby.
Top 3 tips
1. You don’t need flashy laptops and cameras. I have run my blog from my phone and iPad. A laptop does make life easier but don’t feel you need to spend a fortune on one.
2. Everything you need to know is free on Google and YouTube such as photo editing and SEO. I am always reading new articles about SEO through Google on my bus journeys.
3. Do not focus on what others are doing. Spend more time on creating content you love and the numbers and opportunities will eventually follow but be patient! Nothing happens overnight. I didn’t get my first opportunity until I had been blogging for 7 months. At the end of every post have a unique sign off and a little sentence to encourage readers to hit that follow button and a link to follow you on your preferred social platform (IG, FB etc)

Blogging is a community and a great platform to connect with new people. I am so glad to have found these women and hopefully sharing their stories has inspired you as much as it has me. 

Planning and Plot Twists

Planning. We all do it – day by day, week by week, month by month. It’s our default setting to have plans. We need to plan to be able to achieve goals and dreams. You might have a three year, five year or ten year plan. But do we ever stop to think about whether our planning is hindering our happiness?

Until recently, I had a plan. It looked great on paper and it was something I thought I had wanted for such a long time. Turns out, since the plan has changed so have I. Now for the first time in my life, I don’t have a ‘Life Plan’. And that’s OK. It’s all about how you handle the plot twists.

So here comes Plan B. Plan B is living in the moment, being carefree, enjoying the now and taking every day as it comes. Looking back, it’s something I certainly needed to be doing more of and will certainly continue to do from now on. I’m going to be doing myself, for myself, by myself and I know I will be thankful for that later.

I am so excited to start new adventures of my own, find out what makes me happy and do things because I want to do them. If you don’t do these things for yourself, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan.

You can plan your life on paper but you can only live your life by your heart.